Lancelot - Mostly, it is...
Jun. 5th, 2008
11:05 pm - Lancelot
Tonight at dinner, a group of six, somewhere in the high school to university age came in to eat. When they reached the table next to ours, one put his hand on a chair and said "Arthur". Immediately someone else said "I call Lancelot." A third claimed another knight, a fourth said "Shouldn't Lancelot sit there?". Inwardly I had a warm and fuzzy my-kind-of-geeks feeling. As the evening went on, conversation covered a range of topics including food choices and ingredient comparisons, what different forms of being a responsible person entailed, past makeout sessions between various people present, jobs, meta-conversation, and family stuff. It was really happy-making to see/hear a group of friends having sensible, comfortable and aware conversation.
I take the fact that it made me so happy as indicative of a number of things.
1. I probably haven't spoken with Giselle (who is doing her current degree in Brittanic studies as far as I can remember) as much as I should have recently. Note to self to get on that.
2. I've been thinking about communication mostly in terms of the very wide range and large numbers of ways that it can/has/is go(ne, -ing,) poorly, even neglecting the ones where that is the intent, to the excessive exclusion of the various goods that can come with/of it, and the ways that it can go well, for too long and too intensely. (Not all cases involve me as a direct participant in case you were wondering. Lots more on this topic is likely forthcoming eventually.)
3. Giselle isn't the only one who I should try talking with more. Various people, who read this lj should expect to be receiving an e-mail or phone call soonish. If you'd rather not, you are of course welcome to tell me so. (And this leads again into ISSUES with communications around when asking questions is courteous, when it is a burden, when not asking disrespectful, whether the answer to the respectful question matters or not, etc... etc..., the relative values of negotiated rules, convention based ones, which ones apply in what contexts, treeing into consideration of different specific systems and examples historical, modern and theoretical, of suffering that result from their practice and I'd better stop.)